Saturday, December 11, 2010
Malay Wedding.
A Malay wedding is usually performed when either one or both spouses are Malay. The traditional wedding ceremony is in two parts. The first part is the akad nikah (marriage contract), which is the legal and religious part of the wedding. The second part is the bersanding (enthronement), which is a family celebration. It is usual for the two parts to be celebrated over two days. However, it is becoming common for there to be a gap between the parts of the wedding, during which the couple are legally married, but saving up for an elaborate bersanding.
Adat Merisik (Spying Custom)
The adat merisik (asking ceremony, or more literally 'spying custom') is the traditional Malay system for arranging marriages. When it is time for a young man to get married, his family will look around to identify a number of potential brides. But nowadays the man might suggest to his family who he would like them to consider, and it may be a romantic link already exists between the couple. Having decided upon one particular woman, the merisik, or investigation process, will takes place.
For this ceremony one or more wakil (representatives) of the man's family pay a friendly visit to the family of the woman whom they have in mind as his potential bride. The visit is for the purpose of further investigation, and it gives the visitors the chance to see the woman. A hint will be given to her parents regarding the purpose of the visit, and their reaction will be assessed. The woman's parents may also give the visitors some idea as to whether or not their daughter would be interested in the match. The merisik does not constitute a formal proposal. Following the visit both sides can begin to think more seriously about the possibility or otherwise of a marriage. It is possible that no progress may take place, and the man's parents or representatives will then look for another possible bride.
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Adat Bertunang (Engagement Ceremony)
The adat bertunang (engagement custom) is normally held at the bride-to-be's home. Usually, only the bride-to-be will dress up nicely and beautifully as the guests will look and take pictures with her, the groom-to-be will only wear a usual baju kurung . This ceremony is to ensure that the bride-to-be is no longer available to other man out there as she has someone to protect her.
Akad Nikah (Marriage Contract)
A Malay wedding begins with the akad nikah ceremony. The groom signs the marriage contract infront of the Kadi (and agrees to provide the bride with a mas kahwin (literally 'marriage gold' in form of money or goods or anything as requested by the bride). The contract signing is done before a religious official and is accompanied by prayer. After that, their hands are dyed with henna during the berinai besar ceremony. The bride's hair is also trimmed or being put on make-up by a beautician known as the mak andam. Women/Bride will also put on their 'tudung' or hijab to cover their hair and a 'selendang' or beautiful embroidered with beads scarf on top of their hijab. A crown is also placed on top of the scarf.
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Bersanding (Enthronement)
The bersanding (enthronement) ceremony begins with the groom's procession with friends, relatives, musicians and people waving bunga manggar (palm blossom) to meet the bride. Often various good-humoured attempts are made to waylay or stop the groom from getting to the bride. The main part of the bersanding involves the seating of the bridal couple on a dais and sprinkling them with yellow rice and scented water by family members, relatives and guests as a sign of blessing. Each guest will receive a bunga telur (egg flower), a decorated egg with a fabric flower, as a sign of fertility. The couple are considered royalty for the day, and so various royal customs are performed for them, including *musicians playing court music and 'bodyguards' performing a display of pencak silat (traditional Malay martial arts).
*musicians playing court music is referring to the KOMPANG, that is a small hand-held rebana used by the Malay cultures. It is most commonly used to announce the arrival of important guests, such as VIPs, as well as to celebrate Malay weddings. Kompang is said to have originated from the Indian Muslim community and was introduced to the Malays during the Malacca sultanate period. It is usually performed in groups, they can be sitting down, standing or walking. At the same time, they will sing our prayer song.
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After the bersanding (enthronement) ceremony.
After the bersanding ceremony, the wedded couple and their guests attend a celebratory feast called the makan beradab (formal meal). This involves the bride and groom feeding each other sweetened rice. The celebrations are concluded by posing for family photographs.
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